I am writing this as a Kenyan youth who has in the last two decades seen the rot in the social system. I can confidently say that this rot emanates from our fathers or dads or ‘daddies’. The system is failing at an accelerating rate that if nothing is done soon,we will find ourselves in a hole big enough coming out will be a difficult task.
Sex for job in the cooperate area
Recently had the pleasure of working for an events organizing group headed by a woman. So incompetent was the middle aged woman in making the right choices that it was the junior members who were telling her how things are done since they had the know how in this particular field. So how do such people get to head big cooperates without knowing how to run things?
Our fathers have made it their job to give jobs based on whom they can sleep with and not on merit. This has seen the cooperate section of the Kenyan job market mostly filled with incompetent under performing women. What happens when this behavior is allowed to continue? We will find out that since these women get the jobs after offering sexual favors,it will become had for men who put them their to fire or advice them. This is because they fear being exposed and losing their jobs too.
Recently a local TV station ran an interview on a rape victim who was assaulted in her house. To the amusement of many, the lady conducting the interview goes ahead and asks the rape victim if she was dressed indecently,in her own house! A very inappropriate question,since the perpetrators were inside the house,whether she was in a full space suit or not,that was her house and no one has to dictate what you wear in your own house. Again jobs based on sexuality and not merit.
In the long run we are going to have a stagnated economy that is not developing,because our fathers failed in their work and decided to capitalize on their positions for sexual favors.
“Call me daddy”
“Please call me daddy’ Many youths are aware of this phrase in the streets. It simply means an old married man having sexual relationship with a girl young enough to be his daughter. This generation of fathers has made it a thing to sleep with young girls and in exchange they give the young girls material things such as money, expensive phones etc.
This the fathers do at the expense of taking care of their families. Why would one marry then start having affairs? Bringing along diseases and heartbreaks to innocent women? When we have taken our country back from these crop of fathers please let us practice morality in marriage. It is okay to marry more than one wife but do not go around prostituting peoples younger children in the name of daddying’.
This has seen most young men my age lose girlfriends to these crop of fathers. They come around splashing looted cash that no girl can resist. It is a competition with our fathers to win the hearts of these girls. Such girls at times end up being an envy to other girls who in turn would also be willing to seduce older men for cash. Thus giving rise to a rotten society where prostitution is the order of the day spearheaded by ‘daddies’ only that the name has been sugar coated.
If you are having sex for any reason other than love, you are a prostitute,end of story.
Hope is not lost, one day we will take back our country and change it for the better.
This is a Swahili word meaning let it reach the parents. It is a hashtag that was trending in the Kenyan social media platform. It started trending after Kenyan youth started posting erotic pictures on social media in the name of photo shoot.
My question is why do they want to shame and crucify these youths who are engaged with those shoots? They are just as lost as the fathers who are busy prostituting these same young girls. Only that they have decided to make it public for all to see, unlike the fathers whose affairs remain ‘chini ya maji’.
Normally the fish starts rotting from the head,the behaviors of these children is only a fraction of what our society looks like, enticing from the outside but rotten from within. So it makes no sense pushing those photos to reach the parents when our fathers are our role models.
The only thing that I advocate for #ifikiewazazi is to tell our fathers that they have failed us in terms of developing the country. If Israel or Singapore are fifty years old as we are,why are they so much ahead of us? Why is the majority of Kenyan youth unemployed? Why does a newborn Kenyan baby owe China one thousand dollars in debt? I know the answer. Our fathers are answerable. As I said earlier,one day we will take back our country from our fathers and do what they never did when they had the chance.